THOU SHALT SAVE SEX FOR MARRIAGE.
Sexual intercourse is a practice God designed to be indulged in exclusively between the husband and the wife. Sexual relationship is designed only for married couples and never for singles.
Many years ago the word sex was not used commonly as it is today and it was not practiced amongst the unmarried then as it is today. The genesis of rampant indulgence in sexual relationships amongst the unmarried began in the early ‘70s with the Disco Era. This was a distraction for youths from the revival of the seventies. The Devil wanted to keep the youths distracted from the revival and busy gratifying themselves with the pleasures of the world so he swept the youths of the ‘70s with the Disco Era (Soul train). It was a “feel good” era, and the old fetters of social constraint were flung off in favour of the simple feeling of pleasure.
Things got complicated in the ‘80s. Sexually transmitted diseases, even those that became a mystery to science like AIDS, started plaguing our youths and all the victims of illicit sex. It seemed as if such diseases put a scare on those that were victims and it caused some to abstain and others to be more cautious.
Until the Latex messiah- condom came riding into town on a white horse promising to protect people from its side effect diseases and unwanted pregnancy. The world embraced it and – wham! Sex escalated. Science could only see the physical side effects of illicit sex and thought of a solution. Condom still does not guaranty 100% what it promises. For example, the size of the AIDS virus is even smaller than the size of the pores of the condom.
Science did not consider the emotional and spiritual side effects of sexual promiscuity and as a result has not been able to come up with the solution and would never be able to come up with it.
What then is the solution to being free from the spiritual, emotional trauma and physical pain sex out of wedlock causes? The solution is to obey God’s plan for your sexual life. God’s plan for your sexual life is simple: “Wait until you get married.”
THE SEVEN BLUNDERS OF THE SEXUAL WORLD.
Many singles are still trapped in illicit sexual relationships despite the increasing risk today because Satan has succeeded in deceiving them by manipulating their thoughts. He has established lies about sex that most singles feel disadvantaged for not indulging in it.
Have you heard of statements like this- “People are running into what others already in are trying to come out of.” That’s the illicit sex saga.
What are these seven blunders that make the unmarried to still be involved in sex come what may?
1) All You Need Is A Condom.
If you want safe sex, the Sex gospel of the ‘90s says “strap on the Latex Messiah and worry no more.
Here are some facts about condoms.
Who says that you've got to have sex? Have human beings reduced themselves to animals that cannot control their sexual desire. Many have even said that they will die if they don’t have it. I have both heard and read a lot of crazy counsels on the issue of illicit sexual relationships; especially on the internet. I believe the best place to get wise counsels from on the topic of sex is from the book of the One that created sexual union - The Bible. The Bible totally abhors sexual acts done out of wedlock. Such activity is known as fornication (voluntary sexual intercourse between two unmarried persons) or adultery (voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and someone other than his or her lawful spouse). The Bible is clear about God's instructions concerning fornication.
* "Now the body is not for fornication, but for the Lord.." (1 Corinthians 6:13b).
* "Flee Fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body." 1 Corinthians 6:18).
* "Bur fornication, and all uncleaness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints." (Ephesians 5:3).
* "Thou shalt not commit adultery." (Exodus 20:14).
The divine nature (the life of God) which God gave to every believer in Jesus Christ is the only power that can enable a man overcome the temptation of committing this sin and living a life-style of it. Consecrate your body to God by totally submitting to His word and resolving in your heart not to
defile your body by this sinful act.
God gave to every man the ability to control his/her sexual desires.
* "But I keep under my body, and bring it into subjection: lest that by any means, when I have preached to others, I myself should be a cast away." (1 Corinthians 9:27).
3) Sex Equals Intimacy.
Intimacy is a close, personal relationship marked by affection, love, knowledge of each other’s inner character, essential nature or innermost self. If sex equals intimacy, then you could have sex with a hooker and be intimate with her. Real intimacy requires hard work, honesty, mutual self-disclosure, time and commitment.
Sex, when done in the right context (i.e in marriage), bonds the couple; but it brings guilt and most of the time a feeling of being used (especially to the lady) when it is not done between married couples. These feelings are enough to scatter any relationship and leaves the lady hurting.
There is a story in the Bible about two persons whose experience beautifully illustrates that sex is not equal to intimacy. Amnon, the son of King David, lusted after the beauty of Tamar his step sister. He tricked his dad into believing that he was sick and made a request to his dad to send Tamar to his room to prepare him a meal. David, out of compassion, obliged. When Tamar came to his room, Amnon raped her. After the event, it was written that Amnon then hated her to the extent that his hatred for her became greater than the lust he had for her (2 Samuel 13:1-19).
When the person you are in relationship with demands that you prove your love for him or her by having sex with him/her, tell that person that sex is not a proof of love.
4) If You Are In Love, Then It’s Ok To Have Sex.
Girls believe that as long as we are in love and he has proposed then sex is ok. Guys dangle the carrot of marriage in front of women as a means of luring them into bed. If someone really loves you, he will respect you enough to wait. True love is an unconditional commitment to an imperfect person. It is sanctified at the altar before God and witnesses to sacred vows. It’s a marvelous, incredible gift to be celebrated in marriage.
To be continued....................
Many years ago the word sex was not used commonly as it is today and it was not practiced amongst the unmarried then as it is today. The genesis of rampant indulgence in sexual relationships amongst the unmarried began in the early ‘70s with the Disco Era. This was a distraction for youths from the revival of the seventies. The Devil wanted to keep the youths distracted from the revival and busy gratifying themselves with the pleasures of the world so he swept the youths of the ‘70s with the Disco Era (Soul train). It was a “feel good” era, and the old fetters of social constraint were flung off in favour of the simple feeling of pleasure.
Things got complicated in the ‘80s. Sexually transmitted diseases, even those that became a mystery to science like AIDS, started plaguing our youths and all the victims of illicit sex. It seemed as if such diseases put a scare on those that were victims and it caused some to abstain and others to be more cautious.
Until the Latex messiah- condom came riding into town on a white horse promising to protect people from its side effect diseases and unwanted pregnancy. The world embraced it and – wham! Sex escalated. Science could only see the physical side effects of illicit sex and thought of a solution. Condom still does not guaranty 100% what it promises. For example, the size of the AIDS virus is even smaller than the size of the pores of the condom.
Science did not consider the emotional and spiritual side effects of sexual promiscuity and as a result has not been able to come up with the solution and would never be able to come up with it.
What then is the solution to being free from the spiritual, emotional trauma and physical pain sex out of wedlock causes? The solution is to obey God’s plan for your sexual life. God’s plan for your sexual life is simple: “Wait until you get married.”
THE SEVEN BLUNDERS OF THE SEXUAL WORLD.
Many singles are still trapped in illicit sexual relationships despite the increasing risk today because Satan has succeeded in deceiving them by manipulating their thoughts. He has established lies about sex that most singles feel disadvantaged for not indulging in it.
Have you heard of statements like this- “People are running into what others already in are trying to come out of.” That’s the illicit sex saga.
What are these seven blunders that make the unmarried to still be involved in sex come what may?
1) All You Need Is A Condom.
If you want safe sex, the Sex gospel of the ‘90s says “strap on the Latex Messiah and worry no more.
Here are some facts about condoms.
- Condoms fail at least 10% of the time to prevent pregnancy.
- Condoms fail more than 10% of the time to prevent STDs.
- The HIV virus is smaller (0.1 micron; 50 times smaller) than the standard holes (0.5 micron) in latex rubber condom. Therefore, it cannot prevent HIV.
- Condoms do not fit over your mind, heart and soul. Sex bonds souls together and condom can’t stop it.
Who says that you've got to have sex? Have human beings reduced themselves to animals that cannot control their sexual desire. Many have even said that they will die if they don’t have it. I have both heard and read a lot of crazy counsels on the issue of illicit sexual relationships; especially on the internet. I believe the best place to get wise counsels from on the topic of sex is from the book of the One that created sexual union - The Bible. The Bible totally abhors sexual acts done out of wedlock. Such activity is known as fornication (voluntary sexual intercourse between two unmarried persons) or adultery (voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and someone other than his or her lawful spouse). The Bible is clear about God's instructions concerning fornication.
* "Now the body is not for fornication, but for the Lord.." (1 Corinthians 6:13b).
* "Flee Fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body." 1 Corinthians 6:18).
* "Bur fornication, and all uncleaness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints." (Ephesians 5:3).
* "Thou shalt not commit adultery." (Exodus 20:14).
The divine nature (the life of God) which God gave to every believer in Jesus Christ is the only power that can enable a man overcome the temptation of committing this sin and living a life-style of it. Consecrate your body to God by totally submitting to His word and resolving in your heart not to
defile your body by this sinful act.
God gave to every man the ability to control his/her sexual desires.
* "But I keep under my body, and bring it into subjection: lest that by any means, when I have preached to others, I myself should be a cast away." (1 Corinthians 9:27).
3) Sex Equals Intimacy.
Intimacy is a close, personal relationship marked by affection, love, knowledge of each other’s inner character, essential nature or innermost self. If sex equals intimacy, then you could have sex with a hooker and be intimate with her. Real intimacy requires hard work, honesty, mutual self-disclosure, time and commitment.
Sex, when done in the right context (i.e in marriage), bonds the couple; but it brings guilt and most of the time a feeling of being used (especially to the lady) when it is not done between married couples. These feelings are enough to scatter any relationship and leaves the lady hurting.
There is a story in the Bible about two persons whose experience beautifully illustrates that sex is not equal to intimacy. Amnon, the son of King David, lusted after the beauty of Tamar his step sister. He tricked his dad into believing that he was sick and made a request to his dad to send Tamar to his room to prepare him a meal. David, out of compassion, obliged. When Tamar came to his room, Amnon raped her. After the event, it was written that Amnon then hated her to the extent that his hatred for her became greater than the lust he had for her (2 Samuel 13:1-19).
When the person you are in relationship with demands that you prove your love for him or her by having sex with him/her, tell that person that sex is not a proof of love.
4) If You Are In Love, Then It’s Ok To Have Sex.
Girls believe that as long as we are in love and he has proposed then sex is ok. Guys dangle the carrot of marriage in front of women as a means of luring them into bed. If someone really loves you, he will respect you enough to wait. True love is an unconditional commitment to an imperfect person. It is sanctified at the altar before God and witnesses to sacred vows. It’s a marvelous, incredible gift to be celebrated in marriage.
To be continued....................
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