Thou Shalt Save Sex For Marriage (Laws Of Dating contd...)

THOU SHALT SAVE SEX FOR MARRIAGE (contd...).






THE SEVEN BLUNDERS OF THE SEXUAL WORLD. contd.....



5)      You Must Sample The Goods.


Some daters believe in a “test drive” before you buy the car. This is because of the misconception that great sex= great relationship=happy marriage.
It is written in the book of proverbs chapter 9:17 that, "Stolen waters are sweet, and bread eaten in secret is pleasant."
The wickedness in man’s heart makes sex without commitment more pleasurable. 
But read the next verse in Proverbs 9:18; It says, "But he knoweth not that the dead are there; and that her guests are in the depths of hell."
This verse of the scripture is letting you know that those whose lives have been destroyed and also those that are in hell took this same path; so if you want to end up the way they ended up, you should be my guest. This is not God's plan for you. Such lifestyle affects these kind of daters even in their marriage (whenever they decide to settle down in matrimony). They see sex in marriage as being boring because there is no illicit thrill/adventure (risk of being caught or the fun of sex without commitment in it). Such people go out of their marriages to continue with their escapade. 

6)      It’s Just A Physical Thing.

Have you watched the movie Indecent Proposal? A married woman agrees to have sex with a millionaire that offered her and her husband a million dollars. She said to the husband, “I am just going to give him my body, not my heart.” What a lie! She finally had problems in her relationship with the husband. Sex is a physical thing and predominantly a soul thing. Sex connects your soul to the soul of another person like superglue. When the two lovers part ways there is a ripping and tearing of souls. Stick your tongue into the metal part of a refrigerator for 5 mins and  pull it off quickly, I can almost guarantee that parts of your tongue will remain in the freezer. Likewise you cant enter a sexual union without scattering a part of your soul and leaving it in the other person. 

7)      Everybody Is Doing It.



Grow up! Not everybody is doing it. Even if everybody were doing it, does it justify it?
Should you follow senselessly? 
I believe that a man’s religion affects his attitude towards sex. The Darwinian theory, I believe gave rise to bestiality. It is believed that men evolved from apes. We see such crazy things going on in this world today because of crazy philosophies from crazy religious organization. Religion does not have solution to the world's crisis.This is the reason why I love following Jesus Christ. Following Him is not a religion; it is a positive lifestyle with an uplift.



WHY SHOULD I SAVE SEX FOR MARRIAGE?



a) You should save sex for marriage because God, the one that created sex, commands that we engage in it within the confines of marriage.
" Now, getting down to the questions you asked in your letter to me. First, Is it a good thing to have sexual relations? Certainly—but only within a certain context. It’s good for a man to have a wife, and for a woman to have a husband. Sexual drives are strong, but marriage is strong enough to contain them and provide for a balanced and fulfilling sexual life in a world of sexual disorder. The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality—the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband." (1 Corinthians 7:1-3; Message translation).

b) It increases your sense of self worth and value. It eliminates guilt and shame. Guilt can be destructive.

c) Getting involved in pre-marital sex builds distrust for your partner and also for the opposite sex. This will make it difficult for you to commit in the relationship.

d) Most victims of pre-marital sex that used sex to "keep their man" ended up shattered emotionally; because they saw these men they slept with walk to the altar with other ladies.

e) You should save sex for marriage to avoid unwanted pregnancy and its various consequences;
this might eventually lead to abortion and all its risks and heartaches.

f) You should save sex for marriage to protect your body from being ravaged by sexually transmitted diseases.

HOW DO YOU SAVE SEX FOR MARRIAGE?

1)      Repentance.


If you have been involved in illicit sexual relationship, you must see it as sin and confess this sin to God and ask for His mercy. Then you make a decision not to go there again. Repentance involves changing ways. Stop the sin and live for God.

2)      Receive Forgiveness.


 Jesus is willing to forgive you.
* "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness." (1John 1:9).
One of the most powerful ways of receiving real forgiveness is to observe how Jesus Christ handled people who were caught in the web of sexual promiscuity. He didn’t condemn them and He didn’t condone their actions either. To the Samaritan woman, He shared with her how to find “Rivers of Living waters.” To the woman caught in the very act of adultery, He told her to go and sin no more.

3)      Celebrate Wholeness.


There is power in purity. Celebrate the power you have to say "No" to instant sexual gratification and "Yes" to delayed gratification.

4)      Set Clear Boundaries.



 Discuss this with your fiancé/fiancée and let it be stated clearly,"No sex until we are wedded."
To set healthy boundaries means to know and make it known what we do want in our relationship and what we don't want in our relationship.
Wise couples always want their relationships to go God's way. So they start from the beginning to ask the question, "How does God want me to handle this relationship?" And they seek counsels from the Word of God to get the answers to the question. When they get the answers, they use them to build healthy boundaries.

5)      Stay Accountable.



 To your mentor, pastor, group of friends that believe in this commandment and be transparent with them.